Need advice for boyfriend mother

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My boyfriend’s mom has been acting like a bully towards me for the past few years. I have sat down with her & talked to her about things and have even texted her directly to solve issues she’s had with me. None of those times got through to her. I was naive & thought that no more issues would arise.

The beginning of this year, my grandpa got sick all of a sudden & was in the icu on life support. I was devastated. But I had to keep my head up, as I was also trying to finish college, in school to be an emt, & applying for nursing schools. I would go over to my bf’s during that time to get relief with obviously a lot on my mind, but his mom would tell me I’m depressed & sad to my face multiple times. I was upset, but I had too much on my mind to care.

Anyways, it’s the end of the year now & I’m finally not as stressed. It’s come to the point now where his mom is actively ignoring me when I’m over, talking bad about me behind my back, and giving me harsh looks all the time. I don’t even feel comfortable going to the kitchen to get water by myself anymore. My bf has tried talking to her but she doesn’t get it nor care. It honestly feels like she’s bullying me. I was bullied all throughout middle school and high school & I feel like I’m reliving that moment. Since nothing is getting through to her, I’ve decided to treat her as one of my bullies. I’m going to act like her words don’t hurt me, show my confidence, & be polite yet firm. I’m hoping when she sees that her actions & words don’t hurt me and is not getting to me, she’ll stop. Maybe this isn’t the best thing to do for everyone, but my bf & I have honestly talked to her so many times and I just am done trying to solve things that way. I just want to know if anyone else has been through this & what you did? Any other advice? Thanks!

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Al

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I’ve been with my SO for 4 1/2 years and his mom is JUST starting to treat me like a person instead of some monster trying to steal her son 😂. I tried to ignore her and I would smile to her face just to kinda prove she wasn’t getting under my skin. I dealt with a lot of talking behind my back between her and my SO sister but I always called them out when I found out about it. Try not to let her get to you and remember you can always speak up and defend yourself. Good luck xx

Em

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I think your plan sounds reasonable! You are a very strong person for all you’re going through. Keep your head up and just minimize your engagement with her. Good luck 💕💕💕

Te

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Stop going to her house...?

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S • Dec 29, 2018
It’s not that easy. If I never go over to his house, I’d never see him. Hopefully moving out soon!

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I have been through this . I love your plan and strategy. You do you and don’t worry about what crap she has got to give.... i will add that I never understood the attitude or crappie way the so mom had until I became a parent of a boy myself and even though I do not treat others badly I sometimes get that momma bear protectiveness where I want to scare away all girls lol but good luck stay strong and don’t let anyone effect your relationship or your happiness.