Ok so me and my partner of 10 months never have sex! Like never! We are 28 and 29. Sometimes it goes 30 days with no desire from him. Now I feel crazy because I want it all the time and he always turns me down. I have been leaving him alone lately because now I feel like a psycho constantly all over him and I feel like it’s such a turn off now! I masturbate once or twice a day and no relief as I just want him. Now when we do have sex he doesn’t cum and has told me he doesn’t know what and it was never a problem better. We do use condoms and never didn’t use one.

I tested for all the STDs and HIV. And we refuse oral as I did it once with him on the condom but he wasn’t tested yet so no skin to skin and my results are negative but we refuse to do oral until he gets himself tested. To be honest I play around and ask him if he wants a blowjob and he refuses anyways tested or not. I still won’t do it until he gets his results. Doesn’t matter because he doesn’t even want that!

Now I feel crazy! Today I cried because he just won’t do it, no matter what I do! And I feel like maybe I’m an addict thinking about it so much and wanting him so badly. I scared myself! I am considering going to see a therapist just to make sure nothing is wrong with me and to see what’s my problem.

We have plenty of time. We share the same bed together. All night and in the mornings and I get nothing from him. I will try to spice things up hand jobs I try to be sexy I try everything! Excuses after excuses!

I feel so bad because I am considering leaving him. BUT OVER THIS??!!

A little more to the story. I feel like this should be our honeymoon phase and just want it all the time from each other. Nope we never got that! He doesn’t call me beautiful or sweet names. I tried pictures sexy outfits he doesn’t reply to them. The first 2 months of talking he did but the last 8 months he hasn’t said it not once! He says it’s in his actions not words! Umm what actions! The only thing we do is intense cuddling! Which took him a while to warm up to and now he loves it.

He has told me I need to find someone who matches my sex drive. And said he can’t keep up. Ok I get that but at least twice a week? But I get once a month MAYBE!

So we separated twice because of other issues and he has always came back! He chases me.

I’m just sooo frustrated!

This is tearing me up inside! I guess I’m just going to have to call this one a “lost cause”