My LO is 10 months old. We've only really left him once and my in laws came to our house to watch him. Everything went well. I've been pretty apprehensive to leave him but was finally getting to the point where I was feeling more comfortable about the idea. Also realized that it's been since before LO was born that my husband & I have had a date night just the 2 of us 😳....

background.... when my niece & nephew were babies they lived with my in laws & overall things were really stressful & crazy. Some really unacceptable (imo) things happened such as setting my niece on the counter & walking away (& her falling off) when she was maybe 1 or younger, leaving them in the bathtub unattended at age 1, giving chocking hazard foods, etc. we kind of chalked it up to the overall stressful situation at that time & assumed now 5+ years later things would be better.

Well over the holidays a couple things were said/happened that are really making me question her judgement. 1 she took our LO into a non baby proofed room on the other side of the house & then left him to play alone with his mentally delayed cousin. (We were there & I went to him as soon as I realized that she had left him) & then she asked if our very mobile child could just take a nap on the bed, she could set a pillow next to him.... ugh no he will crawl off!

(Goodness this is getting long sorry)

Anyway I want to feel comfortable going out from time to time or LO having time with grandparents, but I'm having a hard time trusting she will keep LO safe! Obviously we can address specific issues that have happened, give clear instructions on what is or isn't acceptable, but I worry about overall judgment . Like what don't I know to tell her isn't ok, because it hasn't happened before.

Idk that I have a specific question more just looking for insight on pur situation from outside perspective.

Ps my parents aren't local & my husband is with me that his moms actions aren't acceptable.