In love 😍 vs loving your man

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What are the differences between being in love vs loving someone does it go back in forth or stay in only one? I’m not sure I thought I was in love but now after over a year honeymoon phase gone with my SO sometimes it’s like I love him but don’t know if I’m in love 😍 but I’m also going thru a custody battle with my abusive ex with my kids as a single mom so I’m not really able to focus on the relationship at this time as I’m stressed and he’s really always busy working runs a trucking business lol.

What about y’alls relationships ? Or anyone on here studied or works in phycology or counseling or just have experience?

Thanks

Ps this man and relationship just kinda found me wasent looking or in a position to be in one I’m surprised I did go for him and it even has already lasted this long never had good luck with men so was done with them, liked being alone as I didn’t want to keep getting hurt. Been okay so far, he’s helping me with my court case and not even his kids barley knew me and it got bad I didn’t expect him to stick around as it’s not his problem but he has I kinda feel bad cuz he shouldn’t have to deal with my problems but I really appreciate him, as it’s all about the kids not me anyways, even tho he don’t know them.

Sorry this got long!