My fiancée and I have been together for five years. Long story short, we started as fuck buddies, I knew he was a fuck boy. We started dating, but he cheated on me multiple times with the same girl. I know what you’re thinking, why give him a chance? Well I can tell you first hand he ABSOLUTELY CHANGED! He is the most sweetest, loving, supportive man I’ve ever met. He cooks, cleans, he’s a handy man, takes care of me when I’m not feeling well, he loves me with his life. Or so I thought. Fast forward, we have an almost four year old and 8 month old and he’s the best daddy ever! I 100% forgave him but for some reason I haven’t been as affectionate and loving with him the past few years as I was the first year when I tried so hard while he cheated on me multiple times. Idk if in my subconscious I never let it go or I was just afraid to show him my true emotions but I can say that I haven’t been the same loving, romantic I once was.

Unfortunately after having my almost four year old daughter my libido has been EXTREMELY LOW. He is NOT the issue, I’m a attracted to him, the sex is great. So there’s definitely chemistry but I just don’t really try ig. Sex is the last thing in my mind and he feel unloved and unattractive because he feels that I don’t want him the way he wants me.

Now I’m not a jealous person at all but this weekend I got a bit jealous for no reason at all, ig there’s this new girl at work that makes me feel insecure because she’s beautiful and I don’t feel like I am. (He wouldn’t cheat on me, regardless of what people thing of once a cheater always a cheater, that is not true. He truly truly made a 180 and I am greatful I stuck trough it. Well we argued, and he feels that I don’t trust him but I do so idk why I reacted. It might have been because I was tipsy.

Now he broke up with me. He has NEVER broken up with me. We actually don’t even argue a lot. We love each other so much that if we have a small disagreement, five minutes later we are laughing again like nothing ever happened. He’s telling me he loves me so much but he doesn’t think he’s IN LOVE with me anymore. He said all he ever wanted was my attention, affection and for me to just show him how I felt. He’s the cuddling kissy type. I agree, I didn’t give it my 100% but it wasn’t because of lack of love. Idk why I didn’t I truly don’t but I showed him my own little way and I guess that wasn’t enough. Now I am beating my self up and I am so angry that I didn’t put my full effort. It was always in my mind, I wanna hug him, kiss him, have intimate moments with him, but I never acted upon them. Now I broke my family apart. He thinks I see him as my best friend only and he feels like he’s my roommate. I fucked up. And now I feel like it’s too late.

What would you do in my case? Would you ask for a second chance and try to see if I could win him back Incase the love is still there but he just doesn’t feel like it because I’m not affectionate? Or is there nothing else I could do since he says he thinks he’s not in love with me anymore?

Ps. We have had several conversations about how he felt, I would say I’d show more affection, and I thought I was but just not the way he needed it with hugs and kisses. He wants me to be the like the old loving person I was. Deep down I was always scared I’d push him away but I also never did anything to put my 100% in. Please give me advice!!

Pls. We also own a home, it’s been 1 1/2 years. We are almost 24 and 26