Would you be mad?

Question

I have a neighbor who I try to reach out to because she’s on disability and I know she struggles with depression. Usually when she invites me somewhere with her, I agree to go to be nice and because I know she doesn’t get out often.
On NYE, she texts me and asks if I wanted to go to the store with her to pick up a few things and I agree. It’s not until we’re driving to the store that she has a terrible coughing fit and mentions, “Oh, yeah, I’ve been sick.”
The moment she started coughing I wanted to get myself OUT of that car. I’m 30 weeks and have somehow managed not to get any sort of sickness this pregnancy even working with children. 
Now, two days later I can feel my throat swelling and I have a terrible headache. I can’t help but blame it on this neighbor! Why would you invite a very pregnant person to do something with you if you’re unwell. Just, why? Would you be mad?

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I think during pregnancy, especially the first time, it frequently happens that we think the world revolves around us and everyone else is as consumed by our pregnancy as we are. People have their own shit that consumes them and it sounds like this person has some mental health issues. I would cut her some slack. Also, being sick sucks but it happens and we can never really fairly blame anyone for being the cause of it. I would let it go.

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Some ppl don’t think... she was clearly looking for company no matter what it cost 😕 it’s irritating but I’d try to move past it

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I highly doubt it came from her. People who suffer with depression don’t often think about themselves & she was probably feeling very low about Christmas & new year. A cold/cough during pregnancy is the same as a cold/cough without pregnancy. You’ve stated you work with children. Probably a greater risk of your throat being sore due to one of them (if youre going to catch a cold you’re going to catch it regardless) than the poor depressed woman next door 🙄

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I’d be pissed yeah. It’s one thing to work with kids but to have another adult not even let you know as a curtesy so you could decide for yourself if you were okay with it or not.
Not that’s there’s anything you can really do or say about it now, but yeah I’d be mad too.
Sorry girl! Hope it passes!

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Look I wouldn’t be thrilled if it was someone that didn’t live directly next door to me and hadn’t seen for a while, but ultimately during pregnancy the onus is on you to protect your health. 
Especially if it’s currently winter where you are, you know colds and flus abound this time of year. 
Not that hard to ask politely before you head out ‘hey I’ve been surviving the season without a cold so far, just checking you’re not unwell before we jump in the car together - otherwise I can happily drop some things by if you let me know what you need out’

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Selfish much? It’s just a cold both you and the baby are going to be fine.

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Your 30 weeks and it's just a cold, that lady is alibv on nye and has also prob been suffering with a cold in her own. Yes she cough. But sometimes just being with people can make you feel betta. Can you imagine spending Christmas and New year alone with a cold with medical needs and depression. Mayb that needs to come to mind instead. Your baby will be fine.

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It’s been 2 days, usually viruses take longer than that to “act” and unless she coughed on your mouth or nose, I doubt you would get any bacteria from her. 
And if she has been sick for a few days, most likely she is not contagious anymore. 
I doubt anything you’re feeling is related to whatever she had

Would you be mad?

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