My husband and I decided to have our moms stay at our house with us, on and off, in the year after I go back to work after giving birth.

My mother in law is a saint, but my father in law is lazy, never cooks, doesn’t drive (he can drive and even has his own truck but just drives it around their property), and talks non stop about things no one really cares about (random movies, music, history, farming). Normally, this wouldn’t bother me, but I’m dreading him being here more often, especially during a time when I’m trying to focus on my baby. He’s also known to stay up late and he’s always been proud of his “nocturnal” schedule.

Please don’t tell me I’m being ungrateful... if my mother in law wants to bring him along, then it’s okay. But am I being irrational by not wanting him here? He would just be another person I have to take care of while I’m trying to take care of me, my baby, and learning to be a first time mom. I know my mother in law will try to take care of him so he doesn’t get in the way, but since it’s my house, I feel obligated to be respectful of and oblige my guests.

Should I just deal with it? It just sucks knowing he’ll only be here because he can’t cook or drive without her! He won’t be helping at all.