My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 4 months. I really love him, he’s caring and funny and our lifestyles fit together well.

There are a couple things, though, that have kind of made small warning bells go off in my head. I don’t know if I should actually be concerned with them or if I’m just paranoid from my previous relationship (which ended terribly).

1. He drinks at any point possible. If there’s alcohol around, he’ll want to drink, and I’m stuck DDing most of the time.

2. I think he stole money from some of our friends. I haven’t spoken to him about it yet (happened yesterday) but I’m pretty sure he did - things just don’t add up right.

3. Kinda backing up to #2, a long time ago i mentioned that I stole a pair of jeans (I went back and paid for them after having a panic attack about it) and he said me stealing was “hot”. He’s since changed his mind on that but still. That, the money, and a few other things make me think he steals.

4. Today he said he flirts with girls at the coffee shop near his work to get free coffee... um, what?? He hasn’t gone there since we’ve been together that I know of but still... (I’m going to ask him about this when I ask about stealing the money)

5. I feel like he views me as this helpless little thing who needs saving all the time. He has kind of admitted to this. I’m going through a really hard time right now, and need a lot of support from him & my friends, but I’m definitely NOT helpless and I almost feel like him viewing me this way drags me down.

6. He likes to take control and do things his way, no matter what

I’m just so confused, I don’t know if its trust issues or if something is really wrong here. :(