How to nicely reject my mil advice ?

So we came to visit my in-laws for a week n my mil has gotten me to the point where I’m starting to get snappy . She doesn’t really get / doesn’t acknowledge that I had sever ppd with my first hence why I’m so distant from him . He’s really independent as a one year old . He plays by himself an when we try to play w him he gets bored n goes back to doing his own thing . And he’s pretty heavy now almost 30 lbs for 18 month old . I still struggle with ppd with my second but it comes out in different ways like in high anxiety attacks . But yknow I tell him I love him and play with him occasionally since I breastfeed my second I don’t have much time for my first but I try to even out my time but it’s hard . But my mil doesn’t acknowledge my ppd causes me to be distant and not such a bond between me and my first . She just says I ignore him “but I’m not a bad mom “ like wtf is that suppose to mean . Anyways how can I tell her I don’t want her advice !!! But yknow w out being a total ass because I still have ppd and my therapist even says I’m on a verge of having a mental breakdown soon . An I’m really trying to avoid triggers

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Am

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I didn’t have PPD after my first, but he is simply an independent child. He loves to play by himself and when he WANTS us to play with him he will come get us... like literally drag us. So don’t worry. You are busy with your second dude... we can’t be in two places. (I have a 2 month old and 22 month old... yup... funnnnn).

Mc

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Maybe you could have your significant other speak to her... that way he can explain some things and you don’t have to worry about getting too worked up?

Sa

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I am in the exactly same spot. I would like to know as well. I feel so tired to begin with snapping happens so fast now. I have a 4 year old and I had her when I was 17 and my mil instead of helping took over and now because I did less of the bonding things with her I have no connection to her. I try so much harder this time around to make sure I do things better but everything with him this time stressed me to the point I can’t breathe.