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So I have an 11wk old, we’ve been rocking to sleep with paci and laying her down after she falls asleep. Well this is starting to bite us in the butt :( I believe I’ve created a sleep association. So my question is.... if I put her down drowsy but awake like recommended so she can learn to settle herself; but she doesn’t and begins to cry after lots of wiggling, putting paci back In, shushing, laying hand on her chest, etc to help her soothe; what do I do after all the above failed to help. What is the next step? I think she’s to little for cry it out. So I feel like we either cry in the crib for forever or I pick her up and rock  her to sleep. What do I do next/deferent/alternative to those two options. Any advice? I feel like once I pick her up she is wide awake and harder to get drowsy than the first time and I end up spending almost an hour or more on a nap before just forgetting it altogether- haven’t tried self settling with night sleep bc it’s easier to rock her to sleep so I can sleep as much as possible before she wakes again.

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Well we don’t really do the full cry it out, but this works for us. If he cries, I leave him alone for 2 minutes, go in and calm him but don’t pick him up. Then leave. Usually 5-10 minutes goes by and he fusses (not really crying), so we wait 4 minutes. Same thing again. I just increase the time each Time and he’s never cried more than 5 minutes.

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There is a difference between a fussy cry and a helpless cry. Try small increments of time to see if baby will eventually self settle after a little fussing. At the end of the day, baby’s sleep association needs to change in order for them to learn to self settle.

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I probably won’t be very helpful becauSs my baby has always been pretty good at this, but I do think our routine is important for her. Before she’s ready to go to bed I get her area ready by plugging in the humidifier, turning on sound machine etc. I make sure the living room lights are dim and when I can tell she’s getting cranky I swaddle her and then hold her with her soother in if she wants. When she’s pretty drowsy but not sleeping I’ll go lay her down. Sometimes I have to go back in once or twice and give her her soother but I find that sometimes the soother just distracts her more and she doesn’t need it.

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So we had a problem of holding him while he fell asleep and it didn’t matter how long he would be asleep when we put him down he would wake up and cry. We were miserable. We had no sleep and my husband and I were yelling at each other all of the time. So we bought the Zen Sack. We bought the 3-6 month one so he could grow into it. And the first night we laid him in his bassinet drowsy and he just sat there and slowly fell asleep. We couldn’t believe it. And the next day we laid him in his crib for a nap for the very first time and HE FELL ASLEEP FOR AN HOUR! This has never happened. It has worked for our little one. We also play celestial white house or a lullaby. And it helps too. It’s worth a try.

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Maybe try picking her up and sitting with her but NOT doing the rocking motion. Definitely too young for cry it out, but maybe try stopping the rocking?

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