Okay, ladies, I need help.

I suck at surprises. Like. Really bad.

A bit of backstory (or, my surprise failures lol): the first time I got pregnant, I took a test at work because I couldn’t wait. I also couldn’t wait to tell him, so I texted him a picture of the test. He got mad at me and said that important things like that require a phone call, at LEAST. Preferably face-to-face. I blew it. It ended in a miscarriage.

A couple of months later, I got lucky. I had a nagging feeling around 7 dpo that i was pregnant. I bought a pack of tests before a family trip and waited until the last day of our weekend trip to test (9dpo). That day was our 5 year anniversary, so I was able to hand it to him as a gift after he gave me my gift (aside: i had no other gift. 😔 we usually don’t do gifts, we do trips and we were ON A TRIP!)

Success! My baby is about to be a year old.

Hurray!

Now we are trying for #2 and I got pregnant last month, for 5 days, before I got my period. I think it was a chemical pregnancy? 🤷🏽‍♀️ the tests were super light and then went blank. I surprised him for his birthday but he said I gave myself away a few days before so he wasn’t as excited (I kept asking him if he wanted an early birthday present. And yes I had other gifts to give this time lol)

I have a feeling he’d love a big surprise pregnancy announcement, but I’m really bad about that sort of thing and I need some tips and ideas. I’m 11 dpo today and pregnant again. I think I’m going to wait awhile longer before I surprise him because I want to make sure it sticks this time. (The test is way darker this time, so I’m cautiously optimistic 😌)

He goes away to work every day and then hits the gym, so I get the whole day to myself, which is plenty of time to set something up.

Help!

Some random notes: part of me wants to wait a month or two but i don’t know if I’ll be able to hide the morning sickness. It got pretty bad last time lol. Also he’s either extremely aware of his surroundings and misses nothing or is completely focused on something he’s doing and nothing else. What I mean is, I don’t know if he’ll notice that my period hasn’t started. He knows I’m in my tww, but I told him I wasn’t going to stress over it this time. I don’t know if he’s counting down the days or if he’ll just take my word for it and just forget about it. It’s a toss up lol, so if I do hide it, I don’t think it will be for very long. Eventually he’ll notice that I haven’t mentioned my period, but I don’t know how quickly he’ll catch on.