I need advice on how to talk to my husband

We are struggling with infertility and our communication is just so frustrating. I am very type A and it has been very easy for me to do everything our doctors recommend and I’ve been able to keep accurate records. I’m on a ton of medicine to make me ovulate, I’ve had the HSG, ultrasounds to count eggs, alllllll of the bloodwork and I’m happy to do all of these things because we want a baby so badly.

My husband had a semen analysis done in October. His results were bad bad bad, but we started him on fertilaid. Yesterday, we met with the fertility specialist for the first time and she recommend he see a infertility urologist and get a repeat semen analysis. The moment we left the doctor it’s like he forgot that she referred to a urologist. We got his results back and they are SO much better, but still less than half of what is considered normal. Now he doesn’t think he needs a urologist because the numbers improved.

I don’t feel like fighting every single time I ask him to do something for this process. I’m putting myself through hell with zero complaints. I just need advice on how to better communicate with him. I know men handle this stuff differently and it is so hard for both of us. How do I get him to understand the importance of it and put his ego aside without having to argue? I want to respect his feelings, but I need him to do what the damn doctor says!