I know this isn’t spousal abuse but I think this counts as domestic violence. When I was about 12, (now sixteen), my older brother and I got into a fight he was in his early 20’s I’m not sure exactly how old, but he was double my size, 6’4. It was a misunderstanding, I was cleaning a light switch that my younger colored on and had to turn on the lights. He is partially deaf and had hearing aids on so he couldn’t hear me when I told him why I needed the light on. As I was cleaning he grabbed my hand thus squeezing the liquid onto him. He slapped me and so I pushed him back a little and I tried to explain what happens but he came back harder, it ended up with him chocking me for minute or two, pinned up against the wall. I yelled at him afterwards I told him I would never talk to him again, that he should never lay a hand on another person, he smirked and chuckled. Today I had a fight with my mom and sister, I brought up how I think that my mom was too easy on him, she didn’t really yell at him, he still lives with us (doesn’t pay rent, food, or utilities), she cleans his room, buys him clothes, and he’s a grown man. I told her I think he’s taking advantage of her, (she left him with his father in another country until he was 17) and that he’s taking advantage of her. She got really angry, she said I have no right to talk about him like that. I explained that I feel like I owe him nothing, he hurt me and never apologized. My mom brought up that my dad has hit her before, and verbally abused all of us, in fact he’s taken my glasses away before. She brings up the point stayed with him because when I was nine she asked me if she should leave him and I said no, so she said I was being hypocritical. She still holds that to my throat, anytime they get into a fight, anything. It’s my fault. My sister then jumped in and said oh he has in his way, he offers to buy you food, he does this and that and he’s a good guy, you have no reason to be mad... He still insults me on a daily bases and I haven’t spoken to him in over four years. He calls me things like Godzilla, or cow, ugly, stupid, fat, and other things of that nature. My family still maintains that it’s just his way, he doesn’t know how to properly apologize since he grew up rich, so he just gives gifts instead. I tried to point out that that’s the tactics of an abuser, they attack you then gift you something nice, but then they came at saying I’m manipulative that I’m just telling it from my side. Am I wrong? Should I forgive him?