Baby shower drama

I am a bit overwhelmed by the issues of my baby shower. I am very sensitive to the subject, it has made me cry a few times already. My dad passed away 6 weeks before my wedding, one of my showers with friends had to be canceled because of it. Which led to having a small family one. That was just a copy and paste version that my sister in law recieved the year prior. Really didn't feel like mine.

So with baby shower I thought it would be best to have one shower for friends and family. My mom who offered to throw the shower is on a 3 month vacation. She doesn't want to plan it because she'son vacation. So my best friend who I grew up with insisted on throwing it. Both are angry. Friend thinks my family should either plan it or move over. Mom just wants it to be family. Again my mom is planning the same shower she threw my sister in law it will be nothing unique. It hurts. It is her 11th grandchild so for her it is not a big deal.

Baby's scans came back and will most likely be induced early do to small size. My mom's shower wont even be in a timely manner. My aunt also jumped in and said "oh well baby will be born before the shower." Just makes me feel horrible. I've just cried.

So end result is all my girlfriends stepped up to throw a shower for baby and me. Mom is on her own. Who knows if baby will be here or not or if both me and baby will be in the hospital for our own shower.

I am so grateful for all the love my friends have shown. Just with my last shower being so horribly sad I was really looking forward to this. I am super sensitive I understand. Wish my family would. Any advice?