There’s this really sweet guy I shared a class with last semester. Anytime we ended up sitting next to each other we would chat a bit before and after class. He’s deaf, but reads lips and speaks really well. He’s just super friendly and easy to talk to, I was actually really mad at myself for not getting his number or something before the class was over.

I was at work earlier this week and he happened to walk in to order some coffee. We recognized each other and talked for awhile before he went to sit down. I worked up some courage and ended up exchanging numbers with him before he left.

We’ve been texting back and forth since then and I really want to ask him out to dinner or something. I was at my parents house last night and told them about him and was just expecting some advice about what to suggest we go do or what to say. Instead I got blindsided by a ton of criticism.

They both seemed really bothered that he is deaf. Even though we’ve never had problems talking to each other and I told them that. He needs things repeated here and there, but its really no big deal to me. My dad made a huge deal about what it would be like if I had a boyfriend they couldn’t talk to ‘normally’ and my mom went even further with ‘what if you marry him and your kids have hearing problems.’ I hadn’t even thought that far, I just wanted to go get dinner with him and have a good time.😩

Now I’m not sure if I should even ask him out at this point. If we did end up getting together then my parents would just be a nightmare for both of us to deal with and I don’t know if I want that for myself or to make him have to deal with them for that matter. But, on the other hand, I’m really pissed off that my parents are even acting like this. I just wanted a little advice on asking a guy out, not this tirade they gave me. And now they’ve got me so anxious about their opinions and how they might treat him if we did get together that I don’t know what to do about it.

Anyone have advice on what I should do and how to handle my parents on this?