My husband and I talked about kids before we got married. We both wanted kids and both agreed to wait.

We’re getting closer to being ready to start ttc, but some things have been coming up that have made me second guess wanting a child right now...

I was raised Christian, but am not religious at all! I don’t go to church and don’t care to, but I am close with some of the older women that go to my mothers church and they are like my aunts and I love the community they have.

My husband never went to church, but as far as I knew, never had a problem with religion.

One night recently, we had company over and my husband got drunk. We were talking about kids. I casually mentioned that I would be totally okay if my mom wanted to bring our kid to church for some kids programs if she wanted.

My husband literally freaked out! He said no child of his will ever step foot in a church, and if other kids knew his child went to church they would make fun of them. And if my mom ever brought our kid to church he would be furious.

I was in shock! I have never seen him that passionate about something in a negative way in our whole relationship!

Another example is that his father smokes cigarettes and weed in the house. Both his parent work and don’t keep their house clean. Their house is filthy and is full of smoke.

I said that, if we have a baby, his parent would have to wear clean clothes and visit at our house because of the secondhand smoke.

He was insulted and said that he was raised in a smoking house and he turned out fine...

I don’t know how to talk about these things with him without insulting him or starting a fight.

We’re definitely not ttc anytime soon.

Any advice would be appreciated!