So I’ve been having these complications with my SO children’s mom (going on a year now) we’ve been off and on for 6 years and during an off stage he had gotten another woman pregnant from what was a one night stand (yes I know I should have cut it off then) I did not know about this other woman until after she gave birth and she mysteriously called him and told him that she gave birth to their twins in 2017 .. fast forward to March 2018 they’ve finally gotten a dna test that came back that he is the father so from there on out he’s been very active in their lives .. all the while he never told her that he was in a relationship because he felt that it was none of her business to know what was going on in his personal life if it wasn’t about the kids .. eventually last year June she went through his phone and found out about our relationship and she even stole my number from his phone to text me and tell me that they were “working on their relationship” and that “you can have him since you want my baby father so much” (funny right) I proceeded to let her know who I was, how long we’ve been together, the dna test and that I knew about their one night stand that lead up to the moment .. so that she can get a view of how I see the situation from my side- she didn’t deny it, she was actually upset that I knew that. So as 2018 carried on in the meantime she’s been trying to get him to stop being with me, threatening us both and even went as far as finding my Facebook and sending her friends and fake pages as friend requests 🤦‍♀️ which I had told him to tell her to check herself and to leave me alone because obviously I am not going anywhere and he’s not going to leave me either 🤷‍♀️ I know it hurts to hear that come from someone you want to be with but that’s the reality of it and if it’s not addressed then it will never be understood... anyways, comes July 2018 and him and I decided to finally start our family after all this time and we did.. we found out I was pregnant in September and happy we were about it but of course there was not much to enjoy because I was still being harassed .. eventually he told her that we’re starting a family of our own and that she’s doing too much because it started to cause problems in our relationship and I didn’t want the stress to effect my pregnancy. That information pissed her off even more to the point that she started to not properly take care of their kids for what I think was more attention from him .. he ended up telling her about herself but the last straw was when one of the twins (in her words) had fell off the couch and busted his head and had to go to the emergency room for stitches .. he called Acs on her for neglect and not only that but (in his words) her house was always a mess and filthy for a stay at home mom she didn’t clean up daily or even washed the kids up for weeks at a time. Their kids are now in custody of her mother who also already had custody of her oldest son and daughter (4 kids in total) her mom went to court and told the lawyer that her daughter is mentally incapable of taking Care of her kids and she now seeks full custody of all her grandkids. (This is far more beyond me and I don’t insert myself into that part at all) .. meanwhile as 2018 is wrapping up she still even until this day continues to stalk me and make threats to me through him ... she also had stopped going to her court mandated parenting classes which is resulting In her loosing her rights completely. She even told him that she going to call ACS on me so I can see how it feels 🤷‍♀️ I’m not sure why she thinks I will let her have an upper hand on my life because she don’t even know me and the last thing Cps will do is take my child away because I’ve always have kept very well of my home and self so I’ll be more than happy to let them write it up as an false accusation. But now that this problem is going on close to a year now and I don’t want my child in harms way I am now ready to get a harassment complaint and order of protection against her which will be bring up in court .. I honestly feel bad on doing this to her but I am completely over it all! I’ve kept messages and screenshots of her friends requests and threats against me leading from June 2018. I am not sure what will be done but for my child’s safety I must put an end to this because him talking to her over and over isn’t working and this isn’t what I signed up for at all 🤦‍♀️ ... just needed to share this because I feel that it is too embarrassing to express .. anyone else going through or went through “baby momma drama” ? .. never would I have thought in a million years that I would be going through such things with another woman. I’m the one who should be hurt because he’s the one who had unprotected sex and had children on me even though we were broken up at that time it still happened 🤦‍♀️ she’s now pregnant again and claims that he is the father but he Denys it and said to prove it with another dna test .. she doesn’t even know that our relationship has been on a standstill since we’ve found out that I was pregnant.. we’ve haven’t had sex or anything since September.. we do go out time to time and we do go shopping for the baby and he does come to all of our prenatal appointments which isn’t a problem or should be but he doesn’t tell her these personal things because it isn’t any of her business which he is right about as well. As far as she thinks we’re still together. Ughh I could go on and on 🤦‍♀️ insights ?

@nia - she shouldn’t have been surprised being that they never had a relationship to begin with. He didn’t know she was pregnant until she called him after giving birth. They never spoke after the one night stand. It was a one night stand with a man she didn’t even know.. only now they’ve been starting to actually get to know each other last year. I feel that if she would’ve spent time getting to know him before sex than she wouldn’t have been in this situation. As for me, I don’t have anything to do with how they parent and I don’t or haven’t done anything to her because of envy.. sure I don’t like her but that’s only because of the harassment and threats other than that I’ve even offered her to meet and talk like adults but she refuses. And yes I know it’s a messy situation and trust I am not fond of any of it and often wish I would’ve made my choice earlier. It’s not about the sex because I could live without it and eventually move on ..

@kaitlin - yes I will know the results first hand and I’ve been told that she does take meds for mental related issues .. I’m not sure what but yeah she does seriously has a mental disability.

@hailey - he has no contact with her. She calls from fake and private numbers. He does have visitation rights as well. And she’s blocked on all accounts of mines as well but she finds a way to contact via fake pages and numbers.

@kelley- yes he does take blame. It all started because of him so there is no ease over for his part as well. I just distance myself from it all gradually and eventually move on but as far as the children I support him on getting custody and another dna test and also told him to get an order of protection being that she threatens him as well .. I know exactly my worth in this situation and often wish I would’ve pulled back ahead of time but I don’t put myself into what’s going on with them now. There is no win win situation but to leave and co parent which is what we are working on.

@Jenn- no he is not innocent at all. I’m sure he’s been lying to her about something, I’m not sure what or why but I don’t make it my business because I’m trying to take myself out of this situation. He doesn’t consider her an ex since there was no actual relationship. She had given the kids to the grandmother when Acs came because she didn’t want him to take them even though he should have been first priority but I guess because she had custody of the other kids the courts saw it as fit until the case proceeds. Thousands of red flags 🚩 have been waved sadly, I’m just happy that I didn’t and don’t feed into it but I will not accept her threats towards me lightly especially since I don’t have or never had nothing to do with what’s going on but being taunted into being dragged into it which I will not give into too. I have my proof for when the day comes if it ever comes .. even though I feel bad because the evidence will hurt her even more because she’s building a case against herself without even knowing but I have to take precautions for me and my child. I know that if this would have happened years ado I would have been so quick to fight and go back and fourth as well but maturity is one hell of a milestone.. and she’s 3 years older than me 🤦‍♀️