i need help

okay so

this topic has been eating away at me for a while now and I honestly get emotional thinking about it.

Unless (this is so incredibly embarrassing) I hump something I cannot orgasm.

My first boyfriend of 1.5 years says that it’s absolutely fine and that it’s okay and has been really sweet and supportive but I honestly hate myself for it.

And don’t get me wrong everything feels great and I definitely enjoy it but I CAN‘T come doesn’t matter if it’s actual sex or fingering or him eating me out.

And we have tried all the positions and they all feel amazing but still it doesn’t work.

In addition to that no matter how gentle he does it I tend to get so sensitive down there and actually experience discomfort when he fingers me.

I don’t know why and I just want to change it.

I know that it must be frustrating for him cause he just wants to please me too but can’t.

I’m just so scared that this might be a reason for him to break up with me.

And I always tell him that it must be me cause he’s good at what he does but I can’t even make myself come with fingering.

I feel horrible about it and that overthinking makes me enjoy sex way less even tho I love it.

Now I know overthinking really doesn’t help with orgasms but really nothing does.

I just feel like an incredibly failure and I am absolutely hopeless and have no idea what to do.

What is wrong with me why does this happen to me.

Please help me