So my history with my MIL has never been exactly “good”. She blames me for the way my husband is, and she has shouted rather hurtful and manipulative words at me over the course of our relationship. While we were getting married, she tried to make the wedding all about her and yelled at me because I didn’t include her enough, even though it was a small wedding that I mentioned time and time again that was far from traditional. Anything that doesn’t go her way is wrong, and I’m usually to blame. My husband just freezes whenever she talks bad about me and never defends me.

Fast forward to now, she keeps stopping by our house without asking us. She just calls when she’s outside and thinks this is ok. Husband and I do not have any kids. My parents never try that with us, hell sometimes if I don’t text them they won’t even see us for weeks.

(Given, I’ve always been independent, moved out at 18, never asked them for help etc).

I’ve told him countless times that I don’t like these surprise visits. He said he would tell them something but yet again they showed up tonight.

Am I wrong for being upset? I just want to live my own life, apart from them. Every time we go over she tells us she’s lonely, has no friends & that she just wants to come over to do nothing. But I really don’t want her over. She’s just been such a negative presence in my life.

I know that’s his mom, but I’m his wife! I don’t believe our lives should revolve around his mom. I just don’t know what to say or do anymore.

What do you guys think? Anything will be helpful 💛 I just need some words of advice or commentary.