Apology to begin with as I may go on a little rant here.

For starters I have a five month old son who is my entire world, and yes he is a mommas boy. But it's kinda hard for him not to be as I am able to be a SAHM, while attending college online. I have also been blessed with the ability to EBF, except for an occasional bottle when I am required to be away from him for a period longer than 2-3 hours. Which is usually when I have to go to my school and take a test on campus. When that happens, my in-laws are so gracious and will watch him for that short time period.

But the only thing with that is...they are very heavy smokers. Granted they never smoke around my son when he is in their care. But they take frequent smoke breaks, so the smell is on their clothes. And whenever they don't have grandbabies around they smoke freely in their home so the place reeks of smoke. I say grandbabies, because they watch their granddaughter all the time while her parents work and what not. Her parents are smokers as well, so they obiviously see no issue. But, I myself as a nonsmoker will get a headache if I'm over there for too long because the smell is still strong. And my clothes will reek after leaving since the smoke is embedded into the furniture.

So my question being am I being ridiculous for not wanting my son to be around that? Isn't third-hand smoke potentially dangerous as well?

You see, the problem I'm dealing with is I don't want to subject my son to that environment. A

s much as I love my in-laws and how great they are with my son it's just hard when he comes home smelling of smoke. But my father in-law, likes to try and shame me because my son is attached to me and is a mommas boy. He tells me I need to bring him over and have them watch him more often so he can get used to them better. But the thing is I don't want to or need to be leaving my son anywhere. It's perfectly okay that my son is a mommas boy right?!?...i mean he is still only 5 months old, he has time to grow and become familiar with people. And besides that we live within minutes of eachother so I have told them numerous times that they are more then welcomed over at our place as long as they call or text before coming. So, it's not like I am keeping them from the opportunity to get to know their grandson better.

So am I being crazy for any of this? Also, is it wrong of me to desire to put my son in daycare, versus having them watch him come Fall 2019 when I begin my nursing core program and will be on campus for school?

Again, sorry for the length...but I would love to hear feedback on my issues.