Baby Blues?

Question

I’m 31 weeks plus a few days. I know I’m supposed to be happy & glowing and all that stuff. I know this baby is a miracle and my body is doing some amazing things by creating new life...
But I feel disgusting. I am starting to hate my reflection. I don’t feel attractive. I feel huge. I see other women who are pregnant and I feel like they all look so pretty and carry the baby well - I feel enormous and like I’ll never get back to me. 
I’m freaking out about being a mom, about childbirth, about walking away from my job to be a SAHM for a few months, about how my relationship with my husband will change, about my in-laws overstepping and criticizing my every move once my son is born...I’m on a downhill spiral. Any words of wisdom?

Answer

Oh, mama - what you’re feeling is all normal. It’s easy to only focus on all of the negatives that we associate with being pregnant (the weight gain, our complexion, overall body shape, etc). But I think we take it to a whole new level when we compare ourselves to other pregnant women. Every woman carries differently, there’s really no comparison. Just give yourself some grace, and enjoy what some women will never have the opportunity to do. Easier said than done, I know - I’m guilty of this too!
As for being a mom, the minute you see that sweet little face, your world is going to change and all of your mama instincts will kick in ❤️ And if this doesn’t happen right away, it will in time. Being a mom is hard work, and sometimes unbelievably unrewarding - but you’ll have moments with your baby that will make up for ALL of the hardships you face.
Your relationship with your husband will change. But it’s going to change for better. It’s a beautiful thing watching your husband step into his new role as dad. You’ll definitely have your differences, but it’s amazing how much having a baby changes the dynamic of your relationship. I feel like my husband and I are more of a team, and he’s more supportive than he was prior to our daughter. 
And girl, I have overbearing in-laws and this was one of my biggest anxieties before having my daughter. Set your boundaries, and make sure that your husband stands behind you. This is YOUR family, and although they may entitled to have an opinion - you ultimately set the tone for your parenting style, rules, etc. Don’t let them undermine you.
All in all, you’re going to be a great mommy! The fact that you’re worried about these things just shows that you want what’s best for your little bundle ❤️ You’ve got this!

Answer

Pregnancy is a beautiful thing and although you may not feel that way all the time (I think we've all been there, especially as we get towards the end) just remember that everything your body is doing right now serves a purpose. Your body is your baby's nourishment and protection. Try to think of your body that way instead of how it may look (which I highly doubt is disgusting!). If you're worried about child birth,  which is completely normal, sign up for a class if you have time or research online. There are thousands of blogs and websites out there that support moms. Talk to friends and family that have been through this already to get their take on it. Ask tons if questions!! Your job will be there for you when you get back. It's the law. As far as overstepping in-laws goes, or anyone else for that matter, accept their "advice" with grace.  Just politely say thank you so they feel heard and it avoids any conflict. Trust me it's so much easier to be polite then get angry or bitter. You need to conserve your energy for your recovery and to care for your baby. No one on this earth knows your baby better than you so in the end raise him how you choose to do so and do not let other people make you second guess or feel bad about choices you make. Parenting is a learning process and no one is a pro to start.

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