Had a talk with my bf after one night we were in bed and I wanted to search someone I wanted to show him on his Instagram search and noticed his search was cleared and found it suspicious.

Got a little upset that he hid it from me, though he knows I probably would have been mad but I guess I've accepted that it's natural to find other people attractive.

I don't actually have Instagram and we used to get in little arguments here and there about him liking really seductive pictures of girls or following random girls, eventually he stopped doing that because he knew how upset it made me.

But now instead of liking photos, he's been searching it seems and it feels kind of weird. He admitted to "lusting over" 'seductive hoe photos' on Instagram from time to time and it just opened up a whole set of feels for me feeling insecure that I'm not sexy enough for him for him to have to do that.

I feel it's natural for him to look up porn, but why does "hoe-y" photos on Instagram of people we both know seem to upset me so much?

He says a part of him wishes I posted seductive photos like that but I also feel it's not my thing to want to show the world this and just want to send snaps here and there to him for fun and keep it more private.

I know he really loves me, and he somehow feels shamed that this is hurting me so much and he can't control his urges. He masturbates every day and says it's hard to just stop for a bit.. but wondering if there is an "average" masturbation level for guys and is this getting into a bad habit or am I overreacting and all guys are like this?

Should I be upset over him lusting over "Instagram hoe" photos? And be concerned that these girls look different from me and maybe he should find someone more attractive than me in his eyes because attraction is a big level of a relationship, right?