My ex husband and I separated Nov 2017, divorce finalized Jan 16, 2019 and we have 1 son who just turned 3 in December.

Back story : we got pregnant right before high school graduation so we were 18, young and naive. Got married Sep 2016 got our own place, yada yada. Well Mar of 2017 I found out he had been talking to his ex for the 3 years we were together and he had a problem jerking it. We never had sex because of his problem and we were always fighting. Sep 2017 found out I was pregnant, and lost the baby. I believe that’s what opened my eyes to leave him.

He is currently living with his sister. One who never even saw our child unless it was a holiday (so it makes me uncomfortable to begin with), ex sleeps on an air mattress and my boy has to sleep on a couch. Ex always sends child in same pair of jeans, doesn’t do his hair, doesn’t bathe him like he needs, he’s fully potty trained (even at night) but ex continues to put him in a pull up at night because he’s lazy. Ex is ALWAYS worried about himself and no other. He skips buying the child stuff (toys, clothes, etc.) because he’d rather have his liquor and cigarettes. *one day I asked him for $20 to get our sons haircut and he said no because he doesn’t have the money, and was just bragging THE DAY BEFORE about getting drunk!!*

Today Ex sent our son to daycare (where I work) in the same old jeans, shirt that’s too small, and hair everywhere. It’s not fair to my son to have to be treated like that and it makes me livid!

Divorce papers say I have primary custody and I give reasonable visitation. And we have said before we’ll do a week on and week off. But if this stuff continues I think I will cut it down to ex getting him every other weekend.

Am I wrong?

*i just needed to vent and get advice, thanks in advance!