Me and my partner really wanted a baby but it’s been 14 months of trying and nothing 😒.

So my partner proposed we are engaged put the deposit down on our wedding for 2020 now my partner says we can’t do both I feel like I have been stabbed in the heart

I’m 2 days late told him I was but not gonna test just yet, he said what you gonna do if you are pregnant I said I wasn’t getting an abortion just so we can get married and he told me today to choose, now I don’t know what to do I really want to have a baby but I want to get married too. I spoke to him about it but it just ended in a screaming match

Am I being selfish to want both?