Does it make me (22) a bad girlfriend to not want my boyfriend (21) to join the military? His older brother has been pushing him to enlist. He’s given him an ASVAB study guide and has told him to study 25 mins per day with it. Initially it upset me because it seemed like my boyfriend was only interested because his brother told him that’s what he had to do, but I’m wondering if I’m just upset for selfish reasons. I’d support him and love him no matter what route he decides to take in his life, but the thought of it makes me really really unhappy. I want a future and a life with him, but the thought of essentially raising a family without him around consistently is really really hard. Maybe I’m overthinking