Single momma trying to be independent
Hello everyone!
So I’m a single momma. My fathers kid and I just don’t get along. he actually cheated and left me for his coworker. oh well moving on. He has a new gf so who cares...
Anyways I want to move 2 hours away. Which he wont know about. Simply because he will try to cause problems. But We will meet half way every other weekend so he can get his son. I’m not bitter idc his son needs to see him and know him. But I have never ever been by myself EVER 😦. Moved out when I was 18 with my babydaddy when we broke up came right back home.im 21 now. I feel like I don’t even know myself. Got pregnant young and was basically a dang house wife with no ring....
So I want to gain this independence, I know I can achieve. Yes I know it will be a challenge. This has nothing to do with being bitter. The college I will like to attend is 2 hours away and they are the only Ultrasound tech program close by. Which is stupid they are in deman but barely offered. I’m currently a CNA love the patient care but HATE the work. I wanted to move with my BD awhile ago but he said no and I put my life on hold for him. Our baby wasn’t even born yet.
Now my son is almost 2.The job interview I have there is on Friday. The daycare is 20 mins from the apartment I put an application in for (1/1 is $935), the job is 30 mins from his daycare , the college is 15 mins. The job hours are 7am-3pm. Daycare opens at 6:30-6:30. Friday’s they close at 11. I will be by myself. My mother will be getting my son 1 or maybe 2 weeks out of the month. Like every other week when he has to see his dad. This is stlll a conversation we are having so not sure...
My mom originally said let her keep him and I come down and visit every weekend or keep him once a week out the month. I said NO I am his mother and I want to raise him either I’m alone or not he’s mine. My son is the last grand baby for right now. My sister is having another baby. But my mom made my son a entire nursery so I feel bad for trying to move to better myself ...😪 what do you guys think about this?? My mom is 62 so she feels like she wants all her focus and attention on him, no other grand baby!
I receive child support 836 I have no car payment. I actually got rid of my car payment and got a cash car. Best decision. I had to learn it’s not about looks honestly. Insurance is 105. And rent will be 935. Of course with lights, food, personal items, and water. So bills probably around 1300. With my job income it will probably be around 1700 a month.
My college classes will be anytime btw 3:30-5:30. My question is HOW MANY SINGLE MOTHERS HAVE BEEN INDEPENDENT & DONE A GREAT JOB WITH JUST THEM??? I am so stressed out...my friend says I’m an over thinker and my mind is alil weak because of this. But I would like to go back to college for what I feel like I would love doing. Any advice specially on the entire mom keeping my son situation??
Won’t be moving until May. But I’m saving and buying little house items until then ..
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