Okay here’s some backstory. My boyfriend is very close with his family, he lived with them into his mid 20’s which is fine, but in contrast I left home right at 18 and have always lived on my own. I’m personally not SUPER close with my family, we’re not estranged and there’s no hard feelings, I’ve just always been independent, we text a few times a week and catch lunch together every now and then and do holidays etc, we’re just not a super huge family oriented family.

Anyway, my boyfriend texts his parents constantly, and he works with his father doing carpentry and sees them every single day. His family doesn’t have a lot of money, his dad is self employed, and his mom is a housekeeper but can only work certain hours due to him having a younger adult brother(24) who is handicapped and essentially has the mental capacity of a 6 year old and is non verbal so somebody needs to always be home with him.

They had two vehicles but they both broke down and my boyfriend has been allowing them for years now to use his truck since they use it for a work truck anyway, so now that makes us a 1 car household but it’s never been an issue because him and his dad work together.

Last year his father tore his hamstring and caused serious damage so certain jobs he’s unable to do now such as roofing and that was a large part of their business but now only my boyfriend is able to do that aspect of it so they can’t take on as many jobs because it takes longer to complete one. That’s also affecting our income because now that’s less jobs and less money and we also live in a state with severe winters so winter time is always slow to begin with.

We’re having a baby in 4 weeks. An amazing job opportunity has come up for my boyfriend with a very reliable and busy company, they have amazing pay and benefits however he is feeling extreme guilt about wanting to take it because he’s worried about it affecting his parents.

I provided my family background because I don’t necessarily have the family connection that he has so I wouldn’t even hesitate to take the opportunity but I recognize his strong emotional connection.

I really want him to take this job but I also don’t want to pressure him.

How can I encourage him gently without coming across pushy or like I don’t care about his family because I do care but I also care about ours and this is something that’d be amazing for us