What are the biggest deciders for you on not having/having more children?

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Hi July Moms! 
I know we are all on different paths, everyone is in this life. We are different individuals with different circumstances. 
I have seen some posts here & there where some of you know this is your last baby, and you will be done after this one. Can you share some of your reasons & experiences that make you know you are done having more children? Is it just something you feel in your heart?
This is my third baby and my husband and I talk about maybe one more after this one, but for me, I'm 35, and I guess my age is becoming a more real aspect of my process for me as I think more about it. Am I done after this one, or is there room for one more?
What makes you feel complete and ready to stop having babies and just enjoy & watch the ones you have grow? And what makes you want more, if that's your story? 
Any experiences welcome...feeling kind of confused in my thoughts today, I guess... 😟🥴

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We knew we were done partially because we are 38 and partially because this is our 7th and my hands are full. I am a stay at home mom but my youngest now will only be 10 months when this baby is born. My husband had a vasectomy in December so it is official. I am attaching a pic just to brag how cute my kids are lol

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This is my first and I’m 35. I want to try to have as many more as I can, as soon as possible. My husband’s on the same page. I’m so blessed with finally being pregnant as we’ve been trying for so long! I’ve always knows I wanted a handful of kids but considering my age, energy and patience 😂 my future as I once imagined it may be a little different. So I’ll try for at least one more right away and if all goes well and I can still stand staying up all night then a third would be amazing! 💕

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Were pregnant with our first but we will have 2 kids and that's it. We have 3 bedrooms upstairs so that's out master plus one room for each kid. I dont like the idea of them being on other floors. We bought this house with 2 kids in mind.
Well have then about 2 years apart so they have someone to hang out with growing up.
We have 4 dogs which is chaos sometimes and I cant imagine having more than a 1:1 ratio of parent to kid. It's hard enough with dogs lol
While I contemplate wanting a 3rd, we feel like 2 is a good amount to spend dedicated time with and be able to alternate what trips we take or activities we do to make each kid happy. 
Also, the idea of paying for 3 kids in college terrifies me.

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We always said 2, maybe 3 kids. While pregnant with my first, I was so sick during the first trimester that I said to my husband, "we may be having an only child". At only 7 weeks, I was in the ER  for fluids because I couldn't eat or drink anything. But after the first trimester, I felt mostly fine. I figured that since not all pregnancies are the same, I was up for more children. However, my 1st was 8 weeks early and I had rapid labor, dp I am high risk now with my 2nd. I am 16 weeks and still having difficulty with food. I have only recently been able to drink water again. While i am happy about a new baby, i am usually feeling sick and miserable. Due to feeling sick, i am incredibly irritable. Not only do I not want to experience sick and irritable again, my husband would prefer not having to deal with me sick and irritable. We feel very comfortable in our decision to be done after this pregnancy. If we decide down the line that we want more children, there are plenty in foster care in need of homes.

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Im having my 4th child and i know in my heart we are meant to be done. Our kids now dont want for anything. They have eveeything they need and more. Kids are expensive and just because they grow up doesnt mean they will be independent at 18. Many kids are staying home longer with parents and on their insurance til they are 26. We have great jobs but with expense and care i dont think i can do anymore. This baby wasnt planned but is welcomed and already so loved. But i stress over childcare and normal expenses of a new baby on top of everything else we have going on and i know this is it for us. Hubby is getting fixed.

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Honestly I don't really want to go thru another rough pregnancy with a young child to look after. Its really taking its toll on my body. Ive always dreamed of having 2 kids to grow up together so it makes us feel complete. 
Also didn't help growing up with family members that had a lot of kids they didn't care for properly. It really made me take a step back and realize a big family just wasn't what I wanted after that experience.

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I am 29 and I’ve wanted 3 kids since forever. I became pregnant with baby #2 when my son was 10 months. I wanted them close in age but this pregnancy has been rough on me and I feel like my body didn’t have enough time to regenerate, plus running after a 13-month-old is sooo hard for me at the moment... So if we actually go for baby #3, I need at least a 3 year break. I am a stay at home mom now and work from home occasionally but it’s not going so well, so I’d like to have these two in kindergarten and work full time as soon as I find it comfortable (approx 2 years after #2 is born - I live in Europe and here 2-3 years maternity leave is normal, and finding a kindergarten for kids under 2 is hard and expensive). I want my life back :) But will I want baby #3 when I do get my life back and find a job and start being myself again? Only time will tell. (Though frankly, if I have a second boy now I think I’ll want to try again :D )

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This is our first. It took us 3 years and 5 rounds of femara to get pregnant with this baby. We're both turning 29 this year. Originally we wanted at least two kids. That was before we knew I had PCOS and it took so long to become pregnant. Now we aren't sure if we'll have a second.

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We know we are done A) Because we aren’t getting younger. Lol. We are both 35. Hubby will be 36 when babies come. B) we are having twins eeeeck C) these are babies 4 and 5 (blended family. Babies 3 and 4 for me biologically). D) we are at capacity for our house. Lol. E) the oldest two are in high school. That’s a big enough gap. 
We are so thrilled to be having these little ones after a September loss. And we know they are the completing factor to our family!! We can’t wait to meet them. They are looking like they are girls so we will have 5 girls total!! Gender confirmation hopefully within the next week.

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I’m pregnant with our second and last. I’ve always known I only wanted two kids, and my husband is on the same page. With my personality I just feel two is perfect. I need some sanity left over for myself! It’s a good balance as I work full time and always will. We live in the Bay Area and it’s so expensive! We are lucky we can live comfortably as a family of 4.

What are the biggest deciders for you on not having/having more children?

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