Before I start, I’m so sorry this is more of a personal rant but it does tie into my pregnancy a bit. So I thank you for taking the time to listen to my long story.

My SO and I currently rent a 2 bedroom town home. We have my almost 5 year old 60% of the time so all our rooms are filled and space is tight. That wouldn’t be a problem with our soon to be little girl coming in May since we will keep her in our room with us for at-least a few months but we decided that we are set on wanting to buy a home in a year. So we made the decision we would rent for one more year. Miraculously, a 3 bedroom townhome popped up for rent in our same community for just $70 more a month. I thought we could never pass this deal up to pay barely more for a whole extra room for the year until we buy, so I went to see it. It wasn’t much bigger but it was perfect for what we need. But then my SO’s mother called him and offered us to rent 2 rooms in her house so we can save more money for this year. While that sounds great, saving money, here are the facts to this living situation. Her home currently consists of herself, her 90 year old mother, and my SO’s 28 year old sister. She currently has 2 roommates and offered to kick them out to bring us in. Between the 3 of them, someone will always be home. The 28 year old sister still parties, and has lots of friends in and out. And on top of this we are bringing a newborn into our lives in 4 short months. So while the $1,000 we can save a month by paying her less in rent is great, I already know there are so many cons to this situation. Well, my SO is dead set on saving money and buying a house so of course he thinks this is the best idea but he knew I didn’t and he told me to make the decision on my own. So I did. I decided the 3 bedroom townhome to rent of our own for 1 year was best for everyone. We put our deposit in and that night things got bad. You could tell my SO was completely unhappy with this decision and we barely spoke for 2 days because of it. I finally threw in the towel and told him to get our deposit back and handle moving into his mothers house. While I cannot stand the thought that I am about to move my entire life into 2 bedrooms in a home that isn’t mine and will ultimately drive me insane, I can’t stand that my SO will make it miserable that we aren’t saving AS much money in our own home.

I have no family in the state I live in, I planned to have my sister fly out for the birth of our daughter and because my sister does not agree with this decision she has now told me she won’t be coming. She was there for my first and now I won’t have her for my second and I really needed her in the room with me. I’m devastated. Not only is this move happening in less than a month, we are moving in halfway through February when the other roommates will still be there so we will be in 1 bedroom for a little and then moving my daughter into the second bedroom after they leave. On top of this any holiday that comes up (including Mother’s Day/ his first father day/birthdays/anniversary) will be forcefully spent and shared with his entire family with no choice to leave when we want for the next year including the birth and raising of our child.

I’m pretty upset and to be honest scared how this could impact my family and his family. I will now choose to stay at work later t avoid being home and getting myself into extra activities in the area because I refuse to feel confined to a room.

I did a lot of thinking about it all and I know it might not be as bad as I’m thinking, but this isn’t an ideal situation for any family and I pray to god this is only the one year he has promised.