So ive had to start thinking more deeply on adoption, and the possibility of it.

Firstly my fiance and are not financially well off, we have two children in our care already, and this third one was not planned and happened while i was on the IUD.

Secondly my fiance is a great guy, and he loves kids, he doesn't want any harm to come any child, and he feels because we are struggling with the two we have he rather put this third one into adoption in hopes it has a better future

I on the other hand am an emotional wreck over this and dont want to give the baby up for adoption because i do believe we can turn things around even with this third child.

My questions is is adoption a good option?

Is it giving up?

What other options do we have?

Edit:if i do go with this option, how do i find someone who would be willing to adopt immediately after birth?

Can i still give this baby breast milk?

Edit 2: so it looks like we may be going thru with adoption, i already contacted an agency and got some basic information.

Emotional: i can't stop crying and realising that at the end of this i won't be going home with a baby, my milk will come in and there won't be a baby who needs it. This sucks and hurt so much i want to be numb and just wake up and for it to be over.

Update: i decided i couldn't do the adoption.

I told my fiance that, i think he's in shock maybe idk. But i asked if he was upset with me and said no, i then asked if he wanted to continue our relationship while knowing this fact... No answer atm. So who knows.