Sister in Law Won’t Stop

My sister in law will find any and every reason to argue with me, and when I react to it, she plays the victim and pities herself. It is getting so annoying and I can’t stand it anymore. Whenever I go to visit his family, she always tries to fight with me and say that I’m rude and disrespectful. Nothing I do or say is good enough for her and she doesn’t hesitate to let me know. At this point, I want to be done talking to her completely and not be her “friend” but I feel like it will reflect poorly on me instead of her. Sorry for the long post, I’m honestly just furious.