So I think I have Vaginismus, I want to have sex but then it comes to it and even with lube even a not so big penis still hurts and can never go in, even though I’m fine with fingers, I let it hurt for as long as I can just because I think maybe it’ll stop at some point but I always end up breaking down and having to just stop trying

I was wondering if any of you ladies suffered from it and have managed to over come it and are now able to have sex without any pain?

And if anyone could tell me why me?

Is it because subconsciously I’m a control freak and can’t bring myself to let go and not be fully in control?

Just anything you could help with is appreciated x