I’ve been seeing a lot of women on here post about how they can’t find the right guy, all guys are trash, and men always cheat. Let me tell you, if you would have met me a year ago, I would have said the damn things. I have been cheated on by most of my boyfriends. I have been mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually abused by boyfriends. I dated my rapist and let him physically throw me around for months. I have been through some seriously awful shit at the hands of men that said they loved me.

There was a time that I just said, “fuck it. Relationships aren’t meant to my thing.” That honestly helped me so much. I see so many girls living their life for their relationships and being noticed by men to be in a relationship. Ladies. Listen up. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE YOUR LIFE CENTERED AROUND MEN. I get we all want love, but I’m a firm believer that you have to love yourself enough to be content with just you before you can truly love someone else. Be comfortable being single. Find a way to make sure you aren’t lonely when you are alone. Take yourself to the movies. Schedule your days around what YOU want to do, and what makes YOU happy. Live for YOU, not a man! I was single for about 3 years or so. I picked myself out of some dark places, all by myself. I did that. I created the woman I am today, and I worked so hard at it and fuck yeah, I’m going to be proud of her. Create yourself into a woman you would be proud of.

All this really does make a difference. Let me tell you about my day, y’all. My man takes me out on a date night at least once a week, and we made today date day. He took me out to lunch, drove me to one of our nicest malls, and shopped with me for hours. Y’all. This man walked through Bath & Body and smelled any candle or lotion I put under his nose. Then we went to Victoria Secret and he was in there with me for like an hour or so because I’m sometimes still not confident in my body. He was right next to me the whole time, pumping me up and telling me I’d look sexy in anything in there, and NOT ONCE did he complain. We went all around the mall, and he carried my shopping bags for me and held my hand the whole time. He spent the night leaning over and giving me forehead kisses and kissing my cheek. We laughed and joked the whole time. We talked about our future and how happy we were. Then we came home to our puppy and had THE BEST sex ever thanks to my new Victoria Secret lingerie and he worships my body the whole time, every time we have sex. Then we cuddled in bed and talked about serious stuff and funny stuff. And now he’s sleeping peacefully next to me with his hand on my ass.

If you would have told my heartbroken and exhausted self that a day like this was in my future, I would have laughed right in your face. I firmly believed guys like him only existed in books. But hot damn, ladies, men like this DO exist and I happened to snag one! He makes me forget about all the heartbreak and pain I’ve been through. He is literally the other half of my soul. He’s my best friend. If I would not have taken the time to love myself and figure out what I deserved, I don’t think I would have found him or would have been able to love him/let him love me so deeply. Don’t let your past define your future, ladies. Your Mr. Right is out there, and if he isn’t, then you are a boss ass woman with a bright future anyway.

Be confident. Be happy. Know your worth.

Picture of my little family. I never knew happiness like this existed until I gave myself the chance to experience it. Love yourself first and real love will find its way to you. ❤️