I have never had the greatest relationship with my father, I have experienced many issues with my step mum, she's judgemental and wicked sometimes. I had to live there when I was a teen and moved out as soon as I could, they were over baring and I had many issues. Mine and my dad's relationship deteriorated. In recent years we have talked more and built bridges. I found out I was pregnant last year after a string of miscarriages and being diagnosed with PCOS, I told them when I was really early I was pregnant because I wanted to enjoy the time of being pregnant and not worrying this time. They were impressed and didn't have much to say. Baby came and my dad offered to meet with me once a month and texts me frequently. Whilst on these visits and whatever he has told me I'm amazing and I'm doing a great job and he's proud. I found out yesterday that behind my back they are saying I'm not a good mum, my mental health issues aren't going to allow me to be a good mum, the have questioned everything, they told my sister they think I have PND because I don't like leave the house (never have) prefer being warm inside and we do go out to see friends and family and we go shopping. They slagged me off because I called it tummy time and apparently it's flood time. My step mum is a qualified nurse and worked with children back in the 90's however she works with schools now. And they have questioned my parenting because I haven't asked her for advice. My issue is they use everything against me, her advice so far has been outdated and health professionals have disagreed. I am suck on what to do, my sister has kept it to herself for months! My child is 5 months now and it started when she was about 6 weeks old. My step mums son commited suicide early November but that's not an excuse because it's been happening before.

Sorry it's a long post. I don't know how to bring it up because I don't want me sister hurt or even more upset. It was another family member who told me because my sister has been distraught and didn't want to burden me.

I'm a FTM who's child is always happy, sleeps amazingly, feeds a lot, who has triple her birth weight nearly and is healthy. Health professionals have all said I'm doing fantastic.

Am I wrong to be heartbroken and upset about this?

Am I wrong to be annoyed that if they did have concerns they should have come to me?

I have the absolute best bond with my child, I adore and love her so much, she's just the happiest cheekiest little bundle of joy ever!

I feel like this was my calling in life, all I've ever wanted to do was be a mum.

I do suffer with anxiety but the doctors know and my panic attacks are less often and I can cope.

I have never been happier in my life.

Advice what would you do? Cut them out your life with out a word?

Bring it up and risk being blamed and them creating more self doubt?

Ignore them all together?

I did want to pretend I didn't know and just prove them wrong, but I've woke up this morning to a text from my step mum and can't fake it 🙈

Any other ideas? I don't want to sit and overthink it and people around me don't really know what to do 🤷 it's conflicting.

Ps. They have only seen my child a handful of times. My step mum has seen her twice and my dad 6 times.

Thank you.