This is going to be long but i really need someone to listen and give me advice.

I met this amazing guy back in November. We really hit it off. We were talking all the time, texting, calling, hanging out. He was so sweet and saying and doing the most wonderful things that made me feel so wanted.

Then things started changing at the beginning of the month. We started texting every other day if that, we don’t see each other much anymore, and he doesn’t call like he used to, I’m always the one calling. The semester started and he takes school very seriously so at first i thought that was it, but then i realized we met around finals time last semester and he had all the time in the world for me. I talked to him about this a week ago Thursday, saying that we don’t really talk much and i just want to better understand his communication style. He said he was thinking about that today too (which is stupid because he’s the one always not responding and leaving me to reach out first) and that he finds texting to be really annoying but it’s something he can definitely change. I didn’t ask him to change, he said he would. But also mentioned he would be MIA this week due to a lot of school stuff going on, which is totally understandable. But it’s the end of the school week and nothing has changed.

Tuesday morning my friend told me she found him on tinder. I was really trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because that’s how we met and he just deleted his app and not the profile. She swiped right to see if it was still active and if they would match and the didn’t. But they matched later on the next day. I called him right away and i was like “look, i don’t want to accuse you of anything but my friend found you on tinder and said that you matched.” He swore up and down that he hasn’t been on since November and that he deleted the app and not his profile so his card was probably still in the deck. I did research and tinder only keeps your profile up if you’ve swiped in the past two weeks. And she just made her profile last week. All he could say to that was he’s “heard of tinder doing some weird stuff” and that I’m his girlfriend so he doesn’t see why he would need to do that. I gave him 2 chances to tell me the truth and he blatantly lied both times. He did delete his profile while we were on the phone and my friend confirmed it.

Wednesday he talked to me a lot, probably because he knew he was in the wrong and that he knows i know he’s lying to me. But Thursday i heard absolutely nothing from him.

Normally if this was someone else I would 100% tell them to leave but i feel like it’s different when it’s actually happening to you. Part of me just thinks he downloaded it again because he was bored and just curious, but it bothers me because he has time to swipe but not talk to me? Part of me is just hoping things would go back to the way they were in December.