I’d love some advice from some other moms out there who feel like reading this.

My mom is really immature... she dumped some crap on me the weekend before Christmas, completely out of the blue, and at a time when I thought our relationship had never been better.

She basically had a huge pity party and blamed me for a bunch of horrible things. I told her we could talk about it but I wanted to get through Christmas and New Years first, she said she didn’t want to talk about it, wanted me to forget about it, let’s just go back to normal, etc. well I couldn’t do that after being blamed for some pretty awful and hurtful things, our relationship will never go back to normal, so I’ve been distancing myself a little, but I’ve noticed that when I have sent pictures of the kids or anything I’ve gotten the full on silent treatment or one word responses.

My son just turned 6 months yesterday and I’m not sure if I should even share pictures or updates with her anymore. I’ve been sending her things here and there since Christmas, but not once has she ever asked for anything, not once has she checked on any of her grandkids, never asked for pics, nothing. If I don’t make an effort there is no contact between us. The only time she contacted me was my birthday and it was a super awkward obligatory phone call.

So my question is, should I even keep trying here? She makes no effort whatsoever and I’m exhausted here. If I stop I guarantee she’ll blame me later, it’s happened before. She has a narcissistic personality where she’ll say “I didn’t even get to talk to my grandkids because you were so cold to me” or “you never picked up to the phone to call me”

The last time we played the silent treatment game she missed my daughters 5th birthday then blamed me for not reminding her.

I hate to cut off my kids from their grandma, and we’ve gone through some great seasons with our relationship, but it doesn’t seem healthy.

I just want a mom who cares about me and the kids and calls/texts, I hate the stupid games and drama.