Ego vs orgasm

Nikki
So this may either sound really silly or really sad. 
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half now. He doesn't go down on me, ever. Never has. Which I don't mind too much because I'm very self conscious anyways. 
He also doesn't finger me or play with my clit very often either. 
The sex is always great HOWEVER I have NEVER had an orgasm with him. I think he gets so caught up and thinks that I'm enjoying it to my full extent. 
I don't know how to talk to him about it without hurting his ego but making slight suggestions hasn't seemed to work. I plan to marry this man. HELP!