I have been a part of this community for 4 years. I joined after my miscarriage in 2015. Here I was again tracking, hoping and praying after 5 years that it would not take another 5 to get a positive. I have over the years seen some incredible stories, witnessed amazing people rise above abusive relationships and cheating spouses. I have cried with mothers that have lost their babies and prayed for others that they receive a happy outcome. I have seen bashing, bullying, and mom shaming. I think we sometimes forget why we are here. At 35, I am here because I don’t have many friends. I am here because I have social anxiety but still need/crave/desire the support of others. I am here because I want to be apart of a community. I am here to share the journey of life with others. I think that is why it makes me so sad when others want to segregate and separate. Earlier there was a post about remaining positive and someone suggested that women in this group who are suffering a miscarriage shouldn’t be apart of the due date group. That they should have a separate group/tab because it is ruining her positive thinking. This post has since been deleted but It hit a nerve. I want to say here basically what I said there. We are each on a journey together. We all have September due dates. The hard truth is that 25% of us are going to have a miscarriage. In the United States (where I live) 1 in every 100 births will be to a baby sleeping. Pregnancy is not safe at any stage. Let us be supportive throughout this entire journey. It can be scary. Let us come together and be the positive force in someone’s life when they feel surrounded by darkness. Be an educator instead of passing judgment. If you ask for advice be thankful for the responses and take them with value. Realize some topics are going to have advocates on both sides (for example: circumcising, the use of castor oil, etc.) Please try to remember there is someone on the other side of the screen. If you don’t like a post or can’t handle it, move on. You don’t have to comment.