On Jan 15 I found out I was pregnant and about 12 hours later learned it was an ectopic pregnancy that had begun to rupture. I was rushed into surgery at 12:30 in the morning to remove the pregnancy, ruptured tube, drain the blood from around the tube and uterus, and the non viable embryo in my uterus. When I found all this out, I really didn’t feel anything except relief that the excruciating pain I was in was going to be gone.

Now almost two weeks after the emergency surgery, I still don’t really feel anything like grief about losing another pregnancy, but I feel very much like a failure to my husband for being unable to carry a second pregnancy to term. He’s been very supportive and understanding and tells me daily that once I’ve healed up and get my Ménière’s disease back under control we can try again but I just can’t shake the feelings of failure. Has anyone else felt this way and how did you overcome those feelings?