My boyfriend has been my best friend for years before we started dating and I could easily call him the closest person to me. He and I have talked about so many things over the years and we fell for each other, I thought I knew everything about him. I’ve always known he was bisexual and I have been very supportive as I am bisexual as well.. recently after his 31st birthday, (I’m 23) he admitted to me that he’s been struggling with what he refers to as a midlife crisis. A couple of days ago we discussed why we’ve been unhappen in our relationship for the past few months and the steps we could take to help each other and that’s how we got onto to the topic of why he has been so emotionally unavailable and constantly irritated with what seemed like everything.. and he finally came out with it. “I’m gay. I’ve been thinking about it for a long time now, and I don’t want to live my life feeling like I have to hide my true self”, he told me. My heart sank, but I stayed as understanding and loving as I could, all the while mentally watching our future together crumble to pieces. I entered this relationship under the impression that we’d have children some day and get married, and I wanted that with him and him alone... and now I don’t see that as a possibility, I’m not even sure if he’s still sexually attracted to me like he was in the start of our relationship. I’m so very deeply hurt but I don’t want him to feel terrible about how he feels, the last thing I want to do is discourage him from feeling comfortable in his own skin.. but I feel like I’ve been lead on and I’ve been trapped inside my own thoughts ever since he and I have talked. I don’t know what to do or what to say beyond trying to reassure him that he’s still my entire universe, but each time I say it, the pain is searing and I struggle not to break down. What should I do? Am I a selfish person for being hurt? I feel so entirely lost, and more alone than ever.