If you stayed home and your partner worked during the first few weeks/months of the newborn coming him did you and your partner sleep separately?

For the last two weeks I’ve been sleeping on the couch with baby in the bassinet. At first I volunteered to do it because my husband works M-F and I deal with lack of sleep much better than he does (he pretty much becomes a toddler if he doesn’t get a good night’s rest and I’m not ready for two under two just yet!)

Although my couch is very comfy I’ve had terrible back pain over the last few days. I thought it was because I slouch while breastfeeding but now I think it’s that plus the fact that I hadn’t slept in a bed in 15 days. In bed I can lay down and breastfeed but I can’t do that on the couch.

Last night was amazing. I slept better and longer than I have in the entire five weeks my son has been alive. And my husband says, “yeah, that’s why you should sleep up here on weekends!” I wanted to strangle him. I also wanted to strangle him when I got up three times and he didn’t even stir. So even when I sleep up here he doesn’t help at all.

I know I volunteered before but damn! Let your wife have the bed sometimes! I’m not going to work everyday but he can’t even hang on weekends because the baby is too much for him to handle unless he’s sleeping. THAT’S MY EVERY DAY 24/7. This whole week he has been going through a growth spurt and won’t nap! It’s awful! He’s tired! I’m tired! I want my damn bed back!

Anyways, clearly I need to go talk to my husband. But how many of you slept separately in the beginning because your S/O worked?