Should the woman help pay for the engagement ring?

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Hi ladies, this is something that’s been on my mind lately.
My bf and i are gearing up to get engaged! yes very exciting.  however, we both are still in college (graduating in may) which means we don’t have much money. 
i started working when i was 15 and have a large savings account from working in high school. my bf doesn’t have that savings but has been saving for the past couple months for my ring.
so here’s my question: would it be inappropriate if i dipped into my savings to help him pay for the ring? i have pretty expensive taste and only plan on giving him a couple hundred dollars.
i just feel like society puts so much stress on men for having to pay for expensive rings when the couple as a UNIT is getting engaged, not just the woman. maybe it’s the feminist in me, but i just feel like helping out. thoughts?

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I'd mention it to your boyfriend, say you'd be willing to put some money towards the ring and see what he says. He may decide he wants to pay for it all, which is his prerogative, but he may also appreciate the gesture and that's great too.

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You guys are partners and a team, there is absolutely nothing wrong with helping pay for something like that. Society does put pressure on men to be the ones to pay for everything, when in reality the relationship is two people, usually, so both should contribute to their lives financially. Not to mention, men’s rings are usually much less expensive so then they end up paying way more for the same symbol of love and relationship status.

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No big deal. It's an expense. And you're getting ready to put your lives together. One of those things is money and expenses. Most of my co-workers helped party for their ring. They have joint accounts so how can you really keep track of who's money is who's. This is a pride issue not really a money one. So it's up to you guys and hope you feel.

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he should give you a ring that he can afford

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I helped pay for mine only because I picked it out and it was very expensive. However, my hubby did pay me back. Now his money is my money. 😉😂

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My engagement ring was not  thousands of dollars and i couldnt care less. Sounds more like you put pressure on him since you have expensive taste lol
And i think giving him money might rub him the wrong way.

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I think that’s great but I could see some men not being ok about it. It really depends on the kind of man your bf is.

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Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable doing that. I guess it depends what kind of relationship you have though.

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What about tax returns coming up? That’s how my fiancé paid for my ring.

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If he is ok with that, then sure. My hubby got me a ring from his mom. So it was free to him which doesnt bother me a bit. I didnt need him to spend a bunch of money on a ring for me to be happy. Nothing wrong with buying an expensive ring, but I dont think theres anything wrong with helping either.

Should the woman help pay for the engagement ring?

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