If you get in an argument with your husband that’s been drinking some beer and is in his right mind but 100000% not sober. like screaming argument, he bucks at you And you say hit me. And he does and he walks away and he then says “ say something else about that” and you do and he comes back to hit you. Are you responsible for him hitting you? Opinions

After the fight y’all go to sleep, you wake up sore and unable to move he comes to get you meds, and takes care of you after the drunken fight . Is this still abuse ?