Spontaneous sex

G. ❤️

does anyone else have a really hard time with spontaneous sex? i’ve never had this issue expect with my current boyfriend. It’s always at night and he says “ok i’m gonna take a shower and get ready” and then he puts music on and lights a candle. it’s never just in the heat of the moment or at random times throughout the day ... it’s always planned or mentioned before it even happens... What do i do?😞 it makes me so sad