****I just want to share my story; Its a long story, but please read til the end and Don’t give up ladies***

As I noticed that there are ALOT of ladies on here who get do discouraged when they don’t receive their BFP( BTW, It took me awhile to figure out what that was when I 1st joined) Anyways.... I met my babies father(In my Cardi B voice) when I was 19. We started having sex when I was 20 and about 6 months later we stopped using condoms. I was NOT on birth control, btw. Nevertheless, we had sex(and lots of it) for the next 8 years without me EVER getting pregnant. That same year I decided to start eating better and living healthier, and I lost about 130 pounds. However; I didn’t even get a chance to enjoy my weight loss for a whole 3 months before I found out I was pregnant, FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER IN LIFE- I WAS PREGNANT! I had my first son at 29, and honestly after all that painful pushing-I was sooooooo done with kids, I couldn’t even imagine repeating it!!!

(3 days before I gave birth⬇️⬇️⬇️)

So I immediately asked my doctor for a long term birth control solution but nothing permanent such as getting my tubes tied or anything like that. So he told me about the Copper IUD- lasts 10 years and is 99% effective. So I got it!

Now, Let’s fast forward to 2012, my son is 2 years old, he breastfed up until he was 1 1/2 so I was able to keep my weight down like it was before I had gotten pregnant.

(1 year after giving birth⬇️⬇️⬇️)

Im just living life with me and my one son, at this time me and my babies father are off and on because I found out that he has some infidelity issues( but that’s another story for another time) Anyways, someone who I know mutually lost one of her 5 children in a car accident that year, he was 15, the only one in the car wearing his seat belt and unfortunately the only one who passed away. After that, Something in me changed and I didnt want my son to be the only child, I mean what if something were to happen to me, yeah he would have all his cousins and the rest of my family but I surely don’t want him to be an only child! So that was In June. I called my doctors office that day and told them that I needed my IUD removed. (Which was a Friday), they had me come in that following Monday June 4th, 2012 . ..My doctor came rushing in the room “What’s wrong kid? Is it causing you discomfort?” I said No, I’m having a baby jones!!!!! He said, OMG, you had me scared. So he removed the IUD, no further questions asked. I remember him literally tapping me on the shoulder before he left out the room and saying “ Now, don’t get discourage if it doesn’t happen as fast as you would like” So I went home, downloaded an <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android">ovulation calendar</a>(remember this is 2012) and wrote down all my most fertile days and made nice with my baby’s father on those days. I even went out and bout some pills that are supposed to boost your fertility- “Fertilide” or something like that...Let me tell you ladies... I took a dollar store test on The 4th of July, it came back positive, I called my doctors office and the nurse couldn’t believe it... they scheduled me for a blood test and sure as shit I was pregnant.... I had my 2nd son Feb 11th 2013... I had him a month early, placenta abruption, emergency c-section but AGAIN, that’s another story for another time.

(1 month before giving birth a second time⬇️⬇️⬇️) My 2 year old beside me!

Ok, so I know that I told y’all after the first one I was done, I was totally done after this one- I wouldn’t wish an emergency c-section on my worse enemy! It is the scariest thing EVER!!!! My doctor told me straight up that he doesn’t want me trying for at least another two years, I firmly told him that I wasn’t trying at ALL, but yet I. Still I DID NOT want to tie my tubes, let me digress for a sec and tell you why. Generally speaking, in life I hate for my options to be taking from me, getting on birth control is one thing, but getting a permanent fix is a whole other thing to me!!! Anyways so I received the Copper IUD AGAIN!!!! 2 months after the birth of my 2nd son, I had no more suspicions about what/if my baby father was cheating because I caught him red-handed. And yes, I mean literally in the bed with another woman. So I was officially done. Nevertheless, I continued to raise my kids by myself and even began to date again in 2015/2016. So I met a guy and we become serious, I did allow for him to meet the boys after about 4 months and I thought it was only right if I let my BD know(as I would want to know if another woman was around my kids) And I tell you, as soon as he found out, he all of a sudden wanted to “work things out”, and he’s “getting too old for all this shit” so I contemplated and my dumb ass decided that I wanted to work it out as well. Ended it with the guy immediately, and started on what I assumed was a fresh start. Yeaaaaaaaa sooooooooo that lasted about 24 seconds...but seriously though, he left after about a month of pretending. Again I picked up the pieces and continued to raise my kids, went back to school, got another degree, bought a house, a new car... I just began to focus on me. Early 2017 I began experiencing sharp pain in my lower abdomen, so I scheduled an appointment with my family doctor and she sends me for an ultrasound and discovers that I have two rather large cysts on my ovaries, so she recommends that I go to my OBGYN. He scheduled me for another ultrasound and a CT scan. During the CT Scan they noticed that the IUD was not there, as in MIA, LOST, Etc... so I had a second CT Scan, a second ultrasound & it was for sure gone! However, we still had these cysts to deal with, so March 2017, my same doc who delivered my 2 boys, removed the 2 cysts. It was painless, I was out of the hospital that same day. I had my follow up with him later that week and he asked me what did I plan to do about birth control. My words verbatim “ abstinence, doc” And I was NOT joking, at this point I was SO over it with men!

My 2 loves -Throwback⬇️⬇️⬇️

Let’s fast forward ... Summer 2018. My oldest sons birthday is the end of July, so I have him a small little party, we set up a tent in the back yard, a little bonfire, watch movies, his dad comes over.....his dad doesn’t leave... I leave the tent to go in the house to check on the food...dad follows me in there, and BOOM I fall for the “banana in the tail pipe”. I’m not going to lie it felt good at the moment, but in my heart I knew nothing about him had changed! So I didnt expect too much to come from it. August comes and goes, no period, no big deal because work was stressful and I had a special, close family member get sick and pass away suddenly, my point is I thought NOTHING of my period being late. Not until the APP notified me that I was 15 days late. So that very same day I went to the dollar store(my favorite place to buy pregnancy test) and boom I am pregnant! Ladies, I was not trying, A baby was the furthest thing from my mind THIS TIME!!!! Especially with him!!! But I feel so blessed that The Lord saw fit to trust me with another one of his creations!!!!! Honestly, All of what has happened after I told him that I was pregnant was and still is so much drama, so I won’t bore you with those details, I just wanted to tell you ladies out there who are getting discouraged when those two lines don’t appear that... IT WILL HAPPEN. Trust the process, trust The Lord!!!! And by the way, we are still living our best life over here!!!!! I’m 37, mom to all boys!!!!