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I think NOT delaying visitors is the weird thing. It's crazy to me that people even WANT visitors in the hospital. With my first I had a traumatic induction that ended up in an emergency c section. I didn't want visitors at all. Because of my long hospital stay I did end up having some visitors but it was grandparents only about 12 hours after delivery and other family the following day
Delaying visitors?
Hi y’all.
I’m a FTM w a scheduled c section for Feb 22nd. (!!!) they’re taking her at 37 weeks for medical reasons.
On top of the nerves that come w being a first time mom. I’m super nervous about the c section and not getting much alone time w our daughter once she is born. So I was wondering if anyone had delayed having visitors? Our family is super close but I wouldn’t mind spending an hour or two alone w just my husband and our daughter before we are bombarded with people who are wanting to hold our baby. I don’t mind them coming at all but I also want to have just that tiny window to ourselves. Is this a normal thing to do? How would I tell people i am delaying visitors? Help a momma to be out 😂
Side note: my husband is a PRO and handling people and will do whatever I ask. I would be the one overwhelmed by having a ton of people around me once she’s born while he would be so chill and handle everything with grace. Lol
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I think it perfectly okay to delay visitors. You need time to relax and bond with your baby. The hospital I’m delivering at doesn’t allow visitors for the first two hours after the baby is born and from 2-4 everyday to allow healing and bonding time (Unless requested otherwise)
Al
I am so afraid I’m gonna come off as rude. I know how ridiculous?! Lol I’m a people pleaser 😫 my best friend had her son in October at the hospital I’m delivering at and she also had a c section. She spent a bit in recovery but said she wishes she would have asked for a bit longer alone. I just don’t know how to say that I don’t want visitors for the first few hours 😫😫
Sa
That’s awesome !! It relieves mom & dad from crazy family who don’t get the clue. Hospital policy is a fabulous reason lol.
Tell them a different date if necessary, or if your husband needs available support in case something goes wrong, then a different time of surgery (eg afternoon/evening) so they’re not anticipating you being available until late evening/early next day anyway. We’re planning a vaginal birth and actually not having any visitors at the hospital until a couple of weeks after we’re home. Your baby, your experience - our opinion is if you haven’t had anything to do with conception, financial and budgeting adjustment, getting up with me to vomit 4-5 times a day particularly between 2 and 4am, chauffeuring me on my daily 5hr commute to alternate duties at work, then you can wait until I’ve finished bleeding into a pad and got my leaky tits under control before planting yourself on my couch and expecting buffet service 🤷🏼♀️
L
Forgot to mention, the nursing staff have strict protocols and will gladly protect your privacy. If you ask them to keep your admission private, people turning up at the ward or calling ahead will be told you’re not a patient of that hospital.
Girl do it! Just don’t tell people when the procedure is done. Wait that hour after to start sending out the announcement that the baby has arrived. So by the time they get there you already had your hour & then some. Good luck, I hope everything goes smoothly & baby is here safe & healthy!
Sa
I get it! It’s a big deal. I hope it goes well & everyone understands.
Al
Thank you! I’m pretty sure the only one we will tell w be my mom. My husband and I are SUPER close w her and she wouldn’t ever disrespect us by telling everyone before we did. Lol I’m a mess just thinking about this.
I am also a FTM having a scheduled c section. My husband and I agreed to spend a couple of hours just us as a new family before our families come meet our twins. We have told our families this and they are on the same page. I also asked to wait to have friends meet them until we are home. I don't really want a bunch of people in the hospital other than family, especially in the height of flu season. Remember these are our babies and our experience so make it what you want
We’ve already discussed ahead of time with our families who we are allowing to come to the hospital and how we’d like things to go. Plus our hospital gives you a code when you get admitted and only people with your code can get in. So we only gave it to our parents and asked them not to share it. We’re waiting an hour or two (or really whenever we feel up to it) before texting them and letting them know they can come back. And we’re only allowing our parents to visit for the first 24 hours because we want it kept small and special for that time. After 24 hours our parents are bringing their parents (our grandparents) by for a minute to meet the baby really quick. I do worry because one pair of our grandparents tends to overstay their welcome almost every single time, so I worry we may have to ask them to leave after a while. But we will cross that bridge when we get there.
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