He is 25 and I’m 26. We’ve been dating for 5 years and our son is 18 months old. We live in his dads basement for now while he finishes up college.

Anyway, my boyfriend works part-time 2 days a week. He also goes to college part-time on Tuesdays and Wednesday’s. The rest of the time he’s home he just smokes weed and plays video games. I’m literally playing with my son all day long. I change his diapers, make him breakfast and lunch, put him down for nap-time, change him in the mornings, etc. He doesn’t do any of that stuff. He also takes naps whenever he wants during the day because he’s “stressed from school and work” (I never get to nap).

I only work for 5 hours on Sunday mornings (he gets “too stressed” watching him if I work more during the week) and even that is too much for him. I have to hear him complain about how he has to watch his own son while I work for 5 hours. Like really? Also, as he’s playing games all day, obviously the room starts to get messy. He always complains about the mess, it’s so annoying. I clean up at the end of the day but it’s never good enough for him.

He’s a great dad to him, I just wish he’d do more. We’ve had this discussion and he just doesn’t get it. Advice?