Anyone else questioning their feelings for their partners?

Our relationship has always been amazing! We’ve been together for almost 5 years and I’d still get butterflies just thinking about him. But.. ever since we had our baby I don’t know how I feel about him. He does nothing to help me. I have talked with him multiple times- we’ve even argued about it and nothing seems to change. He leaves for work at 5am and gets home around 2:30/3 and first thing he does is go to the bathroom for 30/40 mins (I know he’s playing on his phone) then has a 15 min cigarette out front, and then takes a 20 min shower and then back out front to smoke another 15 min cigarette. And no I am not exaggerating. Sometimes it’s even longer. Then he eats and goes to have another cigarette. Once this is all done (yes this is Monday-Friday) he will lay in bed and play games on his phone or play Xbox. If I try to say anything at all he throws in my face how he’s tired from working all day and he can’t just lay in bed all day like I do. WTF how can I lay in bed all day when I am taking care of OUR daughter. He literally says hi and bye to her and that’s about it. If I ask him to hold her as soon as I come back it’s “here take her.” On weekends I get no help at all. And he can’t even use work as an excuse. I am the one who still wakes up with her while he gets his full 8+ hours of sleep. Even his entire day off he does whatever he wants and doesn’t help at all with the baby. He gets to shower every day and eat meals and doesn’t even care enough to notice or even ask why I’m not eating. He is making me hate him. As soon as he leaves I cry and I cry every day. Where is the man I fell in love with?! It never used to be like this. I want more for my daughter. Will things change? Will things get better? Tell me I’m not alone!