It's annoying at first. But now I'm creeped out. I have couple of children from a previous marriage and we have 2 together now. 5 years and 6 months. Everything about him was absolutely stand up amazing. But bout our 3rd year together he changed. He will say goodnight, kids will say goodnight to him. But for some reason he's still will go in an hour, or even 2 hours after someone is asleep with his bright ass flashlight and shake them to say goodnight. If I wasn't around to see the circumstances around it I'd be worried and scared he's doing something else, but clearly its not that. But still, now the annoyance I find in it is now creeping me out because he's lied a few times. Like last night he said the 5 year old was crying out for me. But without me asking her this morning, she asked me why does daddy always wake her when she's sleeping. He's done it me even to the point we got in a pretty heated fight and in it I said he's developed some really creepy boundary issues/habits and he got so defensive & upset. Like when I was pregnant I was tired, but rarely could sleep long. I'd go to bed when the kids did. He'd stay up later and no joke, come in and shake me till I woke up and responded to his goodnight. Ever since I told him it's weird he doesn't do it to me, but still does with our daughter, but not so much with the other kids now. With the baby he'll start rubbing her feet or stroming her head while she's asleep or falling asleep and I look at him and say really, this is not the appropriate time. I know I now come off witchy about it, is that okay? Seriously tho, no matter how many times I calmly and politely express how rude it is and how it interrupts sleep and it feels like a violation of boundaries he still does it. It's literally creeping me out so much that I'm uncomfortable around him all together. Any ideas to the why's of this or has anyone else experienced this?

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I am grateful for the responses as well as perspective and feedback. I'd not considered an anxiety thing but don't see that but it still could be. We have been, had been, in marital counseling up till Dec and one of the things I brought up then was boundaries. He was also seeing the counselor individually so I'd hoped maybe in his one on one's it'd get addressed. I don't think it did. We've been married 6 years this March and not only is this new behavior, but it's new in the last 6-9 months. He's also gotten very ocd about his personal routine and he'd never been like that before. The reason counseling has temporarily halted is our counselor unfortunately has had 3 unscheduled surgeries. He should be back in a couple of weeks. As far as how the 5 year of feels about it, she is now constantly rejecting him because she's so annoyed by him. I think he does it with just her because she's his biological child. She says he bothers her too much and gets in her space when she's doing her own thing. You know how typical 5 year old girls are, just wants hugs and snuggles on their watch not yours lol. I really really appreciate all your feedback and will continue to take any perspective and advice that comes in.