3 month old.. haven’t had sex yet :/

How long did everyone wait til after birth? I had a lot of stitches and feel rather tight sorry to much information but it feels like it smaller down there.. I duno we tried once but it just felt like it wouldn’t go in lol I wasn’t relaxed either.. not being aroused down there didn’t help.. I’m just so tired with baby sex is last on my mind however I know it’s been a long ass time!

How long did people wait is it going to be as painful as I think..